• Are you feeling overwhelmed by life, constantly trying to reshuffle your daily allotment of 1440 minutes so that you have more ta-dones instead of your endless list of to do's?
• Does it seem as though you are walking across a mine-field when you interact with others, always trying to find the right combination of words so that eyes don't roll or emotional explosions don't occur?
• Have you been looking for the "what's next" directional signal for your life, only to find roadblocks and detour signs?
• Are you interested in increasing productivity while having more fun at work?
• Would your team benefit from learning how to disagree better?

Too often we find ourselves taking what others do or say personally as if they somehow have planned a personal attack. Their words or behaviors push our buttons. When this happens, it reduces our ability to think clearly and confidently or act productively.

We attempt to avoid the conflict or hope it will just go away. However, not addressing communication issues usually only leads to more unresolved conflicts which ultimately create cultures filled with tension, chaos and often drama. This drama only serves to distract and ultimately demotivate. No one wants to work or be in a relationship with angry, argumentative people or deal with passive-aggressive behavior. Yet we do, every day.

The reality is, that most often people aren’t doing things to us as much as they are acting out of their own needs and motivations. People are motivated for their reasons, not our reasons. Everyone has their own set of buttons that once identified can be more easily RESET. But first, we must recognize what first pushed the button.

Was it an unmet expectation? Perhaps a colleague, friend or family member doesn’t do things the way you do. Or maybe the topics have just gotten too difficult to discuss and so instead of dealing with it – you decide to avoid it altogether. But it doesn’t go away – because the button is still pushed. Culture is created by what we are willing to tolerate. What are you tolerating?

November 12th Mary Elizabeth Murphy author of the book RESET Your Buttons® will lead a workshop on how to apply her proven tips, techniques and tools to the situations that most impact your life.

Learn how to RESET Your Buttons in your personal or professional life. Discover ways to move from where you are to where you want to be at work, at home, in all your relationships.

Our RESET Your Buttons community is growing and you are invited to join us at the Embassy Suites by Hilton in Concord, NC. Imagine a community of like-minded individuals who are moving from surviving to thriving.