by Mary Elizabeth Murphy, Managing Director S.T.A.R. Resources on December 12, 2012
Transitions in life are evitable. Have you ever felt resistance through a transition? What happens if you do nothing in response to it? The reality is transitions will happen at their own pace.
It has been said that change is the only constant, which is so true. While change can often be unpredictable or beyond our control, it’s how we deal with a transition that is key. Give yourself permission to be in transition and allow yourself the time that it takes, be courageous and committed to seeing the process through. Learn how to RESET your mind and attitude and embrace the transition proactively.
Jim Eisenheimer wrote a “T&D” magazine article entitled “The Art of Transition.” He makes a comparison with transitions and triathlons and states, “It’s your skill at the hidden art of the transition that can make the difference in your ultimate success.” The following are some triathlon tips he suggests you try and that can be applied to how you deal with transitions in life:
- Look ahead and plan for the next transition
- Mentally prepare for the transition as you get nearer to it
- Embrace change, and adopt the new skills and tools
- Don’t get flustered, smooth and calm win the day
- Give yourself time to get up to speed in the new phase
As you move forward in life and continue to make transitions, embrace the experience and make the best of it. The more prepared and aware you are of the transition, the better equipped you’ll be to successfully RESET your buttons navigate through it.
by Mary Elizabeth Murphy, Managing Director S.T.A.R. Resources on May 31, 2012
We use the RESET model to navigate life on a daily basis. But every once in a while life will lob a curveball at us, negative and positive stimuli alike which seem to spring from nowhere at all but which heavily impact our relationships as well as day’s, week’s, or life’s path from that point on. No one expects a curveball. Unlike major league pitchers, life doesn’t tip off what kind of pitch it’s going to throw.
Reacting to and coping with life’s curveballs is a tricky prospect, because most times such events will push all of our buttons, not just one or two. After all, what’s really happening is that some unforeseen, unexpected occurrence has shifted your worldview, even if just for a few hours. If there is one button to focus on during this time, it is your Expectations button which has been pushed the hardest and in this case may be the most difficult to RESET.
When your Expectations button has not just been pushed, but – in the unique parlance of the South – mashed, an instant reaction is neither warranted nor demanded. The honest fact of the matter is that we behave in accordance with the way things are or the way “we think” things should be, as it relates to your perception of the situation. Simply said, when the world or our relationships don’t work the way you think it should work, you aren’t getting what you expect. Note that I’m saying what you expect – not what you want or what you hope for, but what you expect.
Consider how the “curveball” is different than your expectation? What is it about the situation that has changed? How will you use the RESET Your Buttons® model from here to set a new course? What adjustments do you need to make to your navigation system?
Do you have a story of a time life threw you a curve ball? How did you adjust? What steps from the RESET Your Buttons® model did you or could you have used to support you during this time?
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